Our house is sold.
For £20 000 less than it’s worth.
Which means after paying off our mortgage, redemption figure, fees, debts, parents, overdraft we are going to end up with about 2 or 3 grand each. It’s annoying but that’s the climate right?
But what’s harder is that it’s made me so sad. I suppose it’s a symbol of the end of something. We loved that house. Miss M has lived there all her life, Miss E since she was two years old, and for a short while we were happy there. It was a new beginning filled with hopes for the future.
I know I’m building a new future now. I know the decision for us to separate is right. But I suppose it’s made me mourn for what we once had. I’m so emotional right now and for once I’m not going to put it down to hormones, but to the fact I am sad, scared, excited, worried, everything.
Having a night off last night gave me a chance not to think, yet this morning as I straighten my hair and eat my weetabix I just need to write this. The girls are downstairs eating breakfast. Mr B will be on his way to work knowing he needs to look for somewhere to live – if he hasn’t already started, and someone not too far away is preparing their bank for a cash purchase that will change our lives and make the end complete.
And the world keeps turning.
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June 4th, 2009 at 1:42 am
So sad.
June 4th, 2009 at 1:45 am
You’re allowed to be sad for what could have been before you pick yourself up and carry on. Hang in there. A lot of us have been through what you’re going through.
June 4th, 2009 at 1:50 am
Big hugs to you Jo. End of eras are always sad and need some time to come to terms wit regardless of how right the decision was. Stay strong my friend.
June 4th, 2009 at 1:58 am
Big hugs also, Jo. Remember it’s not the end, it’s just the beginning. In time thing will get better. The world keeps turning, this pain won’t last forever. Love you.
June 4th, 2009 at 4:26 am
So he has been staying there and you have been staying somewhere else? Is that right? How long did it take to sell? I can only imagine what this must be like. I hope you feel better soon…
June 4th, 2009 at 4:41 am
It’s right to mourn, and to feel all these different emotions. And it is to your credit that you do. Take care. xx.
June 4th, 2009 at 4:49 am
My heart breaks for you, Jo…but it will all come right in the end, I promise you that. I’m good for my promises, so you can hold me to it…life won’t be the same but it will be life and that in itself is glorious…warm hugs from across the pond
Sandi
June 4th, 2009 at 5:19 am
Aww, that’s so sad. ((HUGS)) Things will look up soon for you
June 4th, 2009 at 5:24 am
Jo, I kind of know how you feel, you are right you do have to look forward, but there is no harm in treasuring memories.
Onwards and upwards sweetie.
June 4th, 2009 at 5:38 am
Not “The End”, but “The Beginning”.
It really is. Mourn for what’s gone, but revel in the unknown.
You’re going to be just fine.
June 4th, 2009 at 5:53 am
I’m sorry. But Sybil Law is right…not the end but the beginning. The best is yet to come, I promise you (having been there myself).
June 4th, 2009 at 6:42 am
Yeah it does .. its amazing that no matter how bad things seem, in the morning the sun comes up. You may not always see it for the clouds or fog or whatever but its there .. and in this economy I say congrats on the quick sale and the $$ (which IMO is no pittance) …
June 4th, 2009 at 6:45 am
Oh darling – want to give you a hug. I think it’s natural to feel sad – life IS sad sometimes, but you are truly coping so well and just keep moving forward by doing what you’re doing. Even better things are just around the corner x
June 4th, 2009 at 8:55 am
At least you know why you are sad and have been able to put it to words and you understand it very well. You will go through a little mourning process, but it will end as your new life continues. Remember that you are on a new road already and you are well on your way to being happy there. This is just the final chapter closing and that hurts. Be kind to yourself and don’t look back too much. Look forward to where you are going. Good things are going to happen. Just you wait and see.
June 4th, 2009 at 10:04 am
Truly truly it is important to grieve and mourn. That house was hugely significant in your life. You’re doing all the right emotions.
June 4th, 2009 at 11:10 am
Leaving a place where you have lived—really LIVED—is always hard. And you must feel that loss in order to truly let it go. Try to recall all the happy times there, and then, when you are ready, move forward with no regrets. I know you will.
June 4th, 2009 at 11:21 am
Homes are the backdrop for so many of our good memories, it’s inevitable you’ll be sad to let it go.
June 4th, 2009 at 11:25 am
Oh that has to be so hard- I have hardly moved and luckily was able to keep the house in my divorce. I am not good with change but 99% of the time it turns out better than it was.
Good luck- shed a tear, walk upright and head into the wind
June 4th, 2009 at 12:00 pm
I’m sorry you had to sell your home for less than it’s worth but it’s bricks and mortar – you have your health and your girls. Nothing stays the same m’dear, look forward now.x
June 4th, 2009 at 3:34 pm
You definitely need to mourn this passing – otherwise you’re never going to move on and build a life. Good luck to you and keep your chin up.
June 4th, 2009 at 4:53 pm
one of the top five big emotional physical mental pulls in life- rough – but see that new horizon.. Grieving for it is mighty healthy girl mighty healthy
how’s the new place looking..lots of fun highlights to make it special plants – colors – fun centers views new traditions..sk
June 5th, 2009 at 3:45 am
It’s okay to mourn so take some time to do just that. But look to the new beginning as an opportunity to learn, grow and gain some wisdom. You’ll be grand. Take care of yourself. x
June 5th, 2009 at 5:41 am
Ah Jo.It’s sad, but it’s kind of good too. You know that.Just think about all the fantastic things just waiting around the corner. Crying is good, but after a while so is smiling.A new beginning,it’s an opportunity to re-invent yourself – not that you’re not pretty damn fine already.
Mya x
June 5th, 2009 at 6:25 am
Big hugs to you babe. You have to mourn to move on. Thinking of you.
June 5th, 2009 at 8:25 am
Such, such bittersweetness. I’m sorry, and I’m glad for you all in one moment. ~hugs~
June 5th, 2009 at 7:55 pm
i feel very sad for you i am lost for words i feel a bit choked too. i remember that year we were all moving on, buying houses etc etc you were so happy to find that house and i can remember you finding a sunny spot for your laughing Buddha it has got some great memories for you and for us too, thanks for sharing them with us.i just know that you will feel better in the long run just not yet pal.hang in there jo.see you in 3 weeks time when i can give you a massive hug.
June 6th, 2009 at 2:27 pm
Thanks everybody for your amazing comments. It just got me. I suppose it’s another part of letting go.
And Ju I can’t wait for that hug. xx
June 12th, 2009 at 5:11 pm
Great news. Kind of. Your house didn’t sell for less than what it was worth; it sold for what it was worth. So, you know, you’re not down 20k, you were just mistaken before.
June 12th, 2009 at 5:21 pm
Hi Moschops. I know a thing is worth only what people will pay for it, but the truth is we needed a quick sail. It’s only been on the market about a month and at its lowest valuation (and we had 3 different companies) it was £18 000 more than what we decided to accept for it. In the end we’ll start our lives with a clean slate and enough for me to buy a car maybe, but it’s still kind of hard when the extra would have come in handy you know?
It feels like we did the right thing but it’s still a bit gutting.
At least we’re not in negative equity though, I know some people will be and that must be awful and terrifying.
June 13th, 2009 at 6:28 am
That’s the game, is it not? A sale is not constant across time – you got the right price for selling it NOW, as opposed to the right price for selling it in a year (although, twixt me and you, I think you’d be lucky to get the same in a year – there’s some more interesting times to come…). The cost of that, it seems, is 20k. You have, in effect, paid 20k to get it off your hands now. Sounds like it was a price worth paying. Have a biscuit!
June 13th, 2009 at 6:38 am
P.S. You’re the number one google image search for “total wig out”. I was looking for something quite, quite different.