We have survived Christmas.
By we, I mean myself and Mr B.
Misses E and M seem to have been absolutely and completely fine, which is perfect, but I have to admit Boxing Day without my girls was hard at times, so I’m sure Mr B felt it on Christmas Day.
Sharing our children has been the hardest part of breaking up if I’m honest. In fact it kept us together for probably longer than we should have been. I think the girls are happier people now. Miss M is more confident, and Miss E has found her smile again and seems less fraught, even though there have been ups and downs.
But, I also truly think that Mr B and I are happier people now. I mean I haven’t asked him, and I won’t, but he seems good and I’m really glad about that. I’d love him to move on, meet someone, whatever, and I’m hoping one day I will too.
Bring it on 2010.
I think we’re ready for you.
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December 27th, 2009 at 6:02 pm
I’ve had a great Christmas with Miniminx and I have her on alternate years so it’s been fabulous to be together this year. It’s a tough one to swap children over Christmas and next year will be hard but you just have to look it at as a holiday season rather than just one day when you share with an ex. So every year becomes a sequence of special days to lighten the impact for a child who is with separated parents. It’s not easy, but it can be achieved, well done you xx
December 27th, 2009 at 6:10 pm
This post makes me happy.
December 28th, 2009 at 1:04 am
Good to hear MsB, good to hear
December 28th, 2009 at 2:54 am
Good to hear, Jo. Was wondering how it all went. In fact I can ask you in ten minutes as you are on your way over. Or should I make that 30 minutes? Joke, Jo, Joke!
You will meet someone one day, Jo. You will.
December 28th, 2009 at 7:21 am
What a wonderful post, you really made me smile
December 28th, 2009 at 8:17 am
I just read a great bit in a book about a divorced couple who are now friends. It took them years to get to the point, but they both wanted the same thing for each of them to be happy and loved. Sounds like it didn’t take you years.
PS No doubt about it just like Rosie Scribble says you will meet someone.
December 28th, 2009 at 8:29 am
I’m glad to hear you all survived. Here’s to the new year.
December 28th, 2009 at 8:37 am
Christmas is a tough one, there’s no doubt – glad things worked really well and I’m sure you’ll meet someone special x
December 28th, 2009 at 10:05 am
I’m just waiting for the day when you meet someone called Bob, and then you can start saying “Oh my Bob” more and more.
So if you’re called Bob, and you’re reading this, do me a favour and email Jo, will you?
Well done on making sense of Christmas with the girls. Sounds like you and Mr B are doing a good job.
December 28th, 2009 at 10:17 am
So glad to hear it all went well. The very first Christmas after my divorce, my ex was on his honeymoon so I got the kids all to myself. The next couple years sharing them was really tough.. missing them.
Then he moved far away from them and although I enjoyed the time with them all to myself, it was very hard to explain his absence and not even a call.
Your kids are very lucky that the two of you are so cordial with each other. Hugs and Merry Christmas
December 28th, 2009 at 10:47 am
Kids can tell when their parents are happy, and they reflect that happiness. It is tough to share the holiday time, we miss MG every other year, as well. But you both did well. And, though you may end up kissing a few frogs, I am sure you will find some non frogs out there, as well…
December 28th, 2009 at 1:13 pm
Hey Jo – I am glad you had a good Christmas. I am glad you are happier – and I’m sure you’ll both move forward and find new love, that will only add to the overall happiness of your family as a whole. It’s what I am wishing for, ultimately, too.
xxx
December 28th, 2009 at 1:19 pm
This is great Jo and I think 2010 will be a special year for you.
December 28th, 2009 at 2:17 pm
It’s nice to hear there was no fighting over the kids etc. It’s always sad when that happens. Happy New Year.
December 29th, 2009 at 11:55 am
I am in awe of your well-adjustedness.