Sometimes our kids get the worst of us don’t they?
I’ve had my girls back just a few hours. They arrived tired and buzzy and kind of highly strung and there was the sort of bickering that you know is going to lead to tears and trauma. But instead of being that calm, patient, loving Mummy who manages to head off trouble at the pass, I have been a shouty, stressy, ‘needs a kick up the arse,’ grumpy Mummy and I’m so mad ay myself.
Yes I’m tired, yes I’m hormonal (aren’t I always? Blumming PMDD), but I’m a grown up. I’m the one that’s meant to make it all better, not pick up on their mood and become it. Tsk. Seriously, my face looked like this…
..but without the fur and whiskers.
We’re friends again now. Stories have been read, cuddles have been shared and we’re planning a lovely day tomorrow, but I still can’t help being cross with myself. I suppose this is another thing I’ve learned since becoming a single parent. When you’re tired, there’s no one there to take over. There’s no one there to become a buffer to your grouchiness. Don’t get me wrong, I’m luckier than many single parents in that my kids have a lovely who has them generally for at least one night each week so I do get a break (and so do they). But it’s still hard when something that was there was gone. And the saddest thing is that it’s harder on them than it is on me.
So tomorrow will not just be Mother’s Day, it will be Kid’s Day in my house too. I may even pluck up the courage to take them swimming, which is a BIIIIIG thing for me. HUGE. ENORMOUS. I tend to only do it on holiday, but you know what, they would love it, and maybe I would too. I’ll let you know.
Hope your Mother’s Day is good. Hope you get to be with loved ones, whether they are Mums or not, and hope you don’t bump into a grumpy woman in a swimming cozzie grizzling at two small girls, but if you do, please give her a kick up the bottom and tell her to go read her blog.
Oh and Happy Mother’s Day Mum. Hope you’re having a wonderful time in Rome. Love you loads.
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March 13th, 2010 at 7:06 pm
You’re a great mom and human, so it’s bound to happen, buffer or not.
Happy Mother’s Day!
I say definitely go swimming. It usually wear the hell out of Z and then she sleeps so, so peacefully. (And I get some alone time!!)
March 14th, 2010 at 1:37 pm
Ahhh thanks lovely, and we did swim and it was great. Lots of smiles today.
March 13th, 2010 at 10:16 pm
We can’t all be happy shiny people all the time – don’t beat yourself up too much, eh? Have a great day!
March 14th, 2010 at 1:38 pm
Thanks lovely. Hope you had a fab day too. xx
March 14th, 2010 at 2:01 am
Go easy on yourself and have a fun day tomorrow, which is actually today now.
March 14th, 2010 at 1:38 pm
Thanks lovely. I hope you had a fab day too.
March 14th, 2010 at 3:26 am
I sometimes have days like that when my patience is nowhere to be found lol. It does make me feel guilty but I suppose everyone is the same – we can’t be perfect all of the time (just most of it!).
Hope you have a nice day today x
March 14th, 2010 at 1:39 pm
Thanks lovely. I did, and you’re right, we can’t be perfect ALL the time. ;D Hope you had a fab day too.
March 14th, 2010 at 8:45 am
I have days like that
Happy Mothers day Ms B., you’re awesome!
March 14th, 2010 at 1:40 pm
Happy Mother’s day to you too gorgeous. You are equally awesome young lady.
March 14th, 2010 at 10:27 am
Don’t be too hard on yourself. I supposedly have the support and still shout at my children more often than I should.
March 14th, 2010 at 1:41 pm
Thanks Barbara. Sometimes it’s blumming hard isn’t it.
But they’re worth it.
March 14th, 2010 at 10:33 am
Don’t be too hard on yourself, Jo. You can’t be perfect all the time. We all slip up now and then, at any age.
March 14th, 2010 at 1:42 pm
Thanks lovely Irene. You’re right. But you know when you know you’ve been a bit hard on them, you just feel a bit pants don’t you? They seem to have forgiven me though.
March 14th, 2010 at 12:44 pm
Without them you would not be a mother, without them you would not be in the crabby mood and without them you cannot celebrate the holiday.
Happy Mothers Day, here in the states we have another couple months…
March 14th, 2010 at 1:45 pm
Thanks notasoccermum. You’re right. And we had a lovely day today. I was just so mad at myself, but we all do it don’t we. Hope your Mother’s Day is fab too. x
March 15th, 2010 at 2:29 am
Hi Jo,
Hope you had a wonderful mums’ day…swimming is always a good one for bringing out lots of smiles. We all get scratchy from time to time. I did yesterday. Tears in the car and thought “no” I am not going to flounce out. Sanity prevailed and then smiles prevailed too. Thank goodness. Give yourself a big hug.
March 15th, 2010 at 9:22 am
I just love that picture! I can do that face too… Kids have a special way of pressing the parental buttons don’t they. You’re doing a great job!
March 16th, 2010 at 4:21 am
Awww, don’t beat yourself up. It’s normal to not be jolly and happy all the time. You should be a fly on our wall sometimes! Gulp! I just don’t have the same energy or happiness in the ‘rut’ I am in at the moment. I feel guilty about it but I’m trying my best and I’m sure you are doing a great job….swimming for instance, you wouldn’t get me doing that. Take care.
May 12th, 2010 at 8:04 am
Happy Mother’s Day to all.`”;