Let me let you into a secret.
I am all of a quiver.
Jingly jangly, shaky, jittery, buzzy, slightly queasy and a little bit churny – kind of like a can of coke that has been shaken and then placed on the very edge of a slope-y shelf.
Why?
Well today I am meeting Mr B’s new girlfriend. She came as a bit of a surprise, although a nice one, and I really am looking forward to meeting her, but I’m really nervous too.
E and M have sung her praises over the past 2 weeks, and she has been the source of conversation and indirectly of some amusement…
Miss M: ”Not all stepmothers are wicked are they Mummy?”
Me: ”Erm, no M.
Miss M: ”Because, in Cinderella the ugly sisters were much worse and the mother was really sorry in the end.”
Me: ”Snort, in real life stepmothers are just normal ladies like Mummy, (I so am normal). They’re just people hon. Are you thinking about Daddy’s friend?”
M: ”Yes.”
Me: ”Well she sounds very lovely M, and she doesn’t have to be your step-mum, she can be your friend.”
Miss M: ”But I want her to be my step-mum Mummy.”
Me: ”Well that’s ok then babe.” (Gulp!)
So I am tidying and cleaning, and then I need to have a shower and straighten my hair so I look presentable and don’t feel like the ugly sister. I’m nervous as I want her to be ok and I know she’ll be nervous too, and I don’t know how I’ll feel even though so far I have felt nothing but good about the whole thing if a little apprehensive.
I suppose it’s because I still see Mr B as my family. I want him to be happy, and though we no longer love each other in that way, and I have myself been seeing a lovely man for the past year or so although it reached an end in February when I realised we just weren’t quite right (and breathe), it will still be weird seeing someone else on his arm, someone who now knows him more than I do.
Good, but weird.
Picture Credit: The lovely Steve Spangler and edited by me at the fabulous picnik.com
UPDATE:
Omg she is lovely. Really really nice. We were both nervous and I am bright red cheeked and burny eared, but they are good together and it was fine and she definitely isn’t wicked step-mother or even ‘might-occasionally-be- a-bit-grumpy-and-stamp-on-your-teddy’ step-mother material. I am so so relieved.
Roll on life. The Beaufoix’s are doing ok.
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May 27th, 2011 at 6:39 am
Ooooh! Swirly swirly. Yes I can imagine…
*gulp*
Good luck! I’m sure it will all be grand!
May 27th, 2011 at 10:10 am
Still a little swirly but much better now, hee hee. She even went outside and met the rabbits. It was just right. I feel all excited and happy. Weird!
May 27th, 2011 at 6:43 am
I hope it goes well. I’m sure it will.
I am a wicked stepmother and have always got on fine with my Husband’s ex wife. I think it certainly helped when it came to my stepdaughter who has always looked to me as a friend … and I her.
May 27th, 2011 at 10:09 am
Lovely Laura, you must be be the coolest most hilarious step-mum in the world ever. And the one with the best tash. x
May 27th, 2011 at 8:17 am
It will go fine – don’t forget, he has immpeccable taste in women.
Mya x
May 27th, 2011 at 10:07 am
Mya I love you. That is all. x
May 27th, 2011 at 9:12 am
Sending you a hug and i’m sure it will go well too. X
May 27th, 2011 at 10:07 am
It did. I am so relieved.
And we need to get our feet nibbled soon and have a cuppa.
June 6th, 2011 at 7:08 am
we sure do!!!!!!!!!!!!!! am gointo text yo now!!!!!!!!! xx
May 27th, 2011 at 9:22 am
You’ll be fantastic! xoxo
May 27th, 2011 at 10:06 am
Thanks lovely. It was good. Miss E made a fabulous biscuit display and Miss M jumped on everybody. Perfect.
May 27th, 2011 at 10:21 am
Gosh, you’re a grown-up Jo (more so than I would probably be under similar circumstances if I’m honest, no matter how amicable things were with a ex…) x
May 27th, 2011 at 10:26 am
I reckon you’d surprise yourself Pots. It’s all about the kids and they rally like her. I think mine and Mr B’s age difference helps too in that we grew apart. Nobody did anything bad to anyone, we just wanted different things and were at different places in our lives. We do have our ups and downs and I’m sure there’ll be more, but we’re doing ok.
May 27th, 2011 at 10:27 am
That would be ‘really’ like her, not ‘rally, rally.’ That sounds a bit posh.
May 27th, 2011 at 1:26 pm
Gosh, Jo, you’re doing very well with this. I can’t imagine being as positive and self-giving as you are in the circs. Good for you.
May 28th, 2011 at 3:36 am
So pleased to read it went well Jo (in the replies to your comments). The girls seem happy and it has to be good thing for them to see their dad happy to. In time you’ll meet that special person too. You all deserve every happiness in life. Sometimes it takes a little time though. x
May 28th, 2011 at 9:25 am
I can honestly tell you, it is just as nerve wracking from the girlfriend point of view…. not so much really about the man, but about the kids for sure! The fact that you are a nice woman helps a lot, and I am so glad for all of you that SHE turned out to be a nice woman, as well. If she does end up being in the role of step mum to the girls, its good to know that you will be able to talk with her without animosity…
Take your time meeting the right man, Jo, it is worth it, believe me! My second go round at this is SO much better than my first, and my first husband was actually a very nice man, as well….
May 28th, 2011 at 2:52 pm
Well done Jo – what a lovely post to read. Most inspirational to me as ex is over in the UK right now with his girlfriend. Not sure if we will bump into each other or not. I don’t have anything against her – or them particularly – but I still find it hard (tho I hope she doesn’t realise that from my ‘performance’) nx
May 29th, 2011 at 1:25 am
Well done you. It’s weird meeting your ex-husband’s new woman isn’t it? I met my ex’s fiancee a couple of years ago (they’re still engaged) and she was so completely different from me that I was a little surprised. Not just in looks, but in personality too. She is…how can I put this nicely….as rough as a bear’s arse.
May 29th, 2011 at 2:13 am
Oh wow, well done. Having ‘been there done that’ I can certainly understand those feelings of wishing well but feeling anxious! Pleased it all went well.
May 29th, 2011 at 4:52 am
Jo,
You are one of the nicest people on the planet, your genuine and kind and beautiful…it would be impossible for anyone not to love you so I am glad that it went well and that the girls like her too. xx
May 31st, 2011 at 11:02 am
I didn’t know you had been dating……♥. and I’m so proud of you for being upbeat and positive about Mr. B dating. I know it must feel awkward. I’m so glad you liked her.
that is great.
oh and I am glad you didn’t lose your domain. I missed my blogs birthday this year as well. too busy to notice.